YOU ASKED ABOUT SQUIRTING AND EJACULATION,
DR ZHANA HAS YOUR ANSWERS.
As per my earlier announcement, we are starting a new column on this blog abut sex. This is a direct outcome of the question you asked in our secret group I mentioned yesterday, and today Doctor Zhana will answer a few questions you asked me.
A few words about Doctor Zhana Vrangalova, PhD.
Dr Zhana is an NYC-based sex researcher who studies casual sex, nonmonogamy, and sexual orientation. She holds a PhD in developmental psychology from Cornell University, and currently teaches human sexuality-related courses as an adjunct professor at New York University. Her scholarly work has been published in a number of academic journals, and she is also passionate about bringing accurate scientific information to the general audience. In working to disseminate sexual science to broader audiences, she also writes about sexuality for popular media (for e.g., Playboy, Alternet, NY Daily News, Teen Vogue, Psychology Today), shares new sex research on her Twitter, Instagram, Facebo
What is squirting?
Squirting is expulsion of liquid from the genito-urinary tract in women during sexual activity. It is often accompanied by the subjective experience of an orgasm, but not always. The specific content of the female ejaculation and the anatomical structures it emanates from are still debated in the scientific community. As of now, there seems to be a tentative consensus that what there might be two types of female ejaculation.
One type is a relatively small amount of white, milky fluid (1ml to 30-50ml) which is thought to come from the Skene’s glands, the equivalent to the male prostate, because it contains relatively high levels of prostate-specific chemicals. The Skene’s glands, embedded in the wall of the urethra, themselves are a bit of a mystery still, because it’s possible that only about half of all women have them, and they come in many different anatomical variations, sizes, and types of ducts.
The other type is the gushing type of ejaculation (the one people see in porn, and most often associated with squirting). This is typically a clear, odorless fluid that can range from 50ml to 900 ml in quantity, and it is believed to come from and pass through the bladder, and gets expelled through the urethra – like urine does. Depending on when a woman has peed and how much liquid she has consumed beforehand, this gushing squirt’s chemical composition can range from urine to highly diluted urine.
(It’s worth noting that neither of these ejaculates should be confused to the vaginal lubrication that women experience when they get aroused – that lubrication is plasma transudate which diffuses across the vaginal wall when blood rushes to the genital area during arousal.)
Are all women capable of squirting?
We simply don’t know that.
In the couple of studies of this kind ever conducted, 40-55% of women said they’ve ever ejaculated. However, none of these studies used a representative sample, so these percentages are highly unreliable.
And, because what exactly squirt is and where it comes from is still being debated, we also don’t know if all women have the anatomical and physiological structures necessary for squirting. Only one European study has ever tried to answer this question. The researchers (who were also medical doctors) brought into the lab 27 women (patients at a fertility clinic, unrelated to their squirting history or experience) who agreed to be part of an unusual experiment: The researchers stimulated each woman using their hands or toys on four separate occasions for up to an hour trying to make them squirt. They were only able to get 37% of them to ejaculate; 63% could not even after trying really hard over all four sessions.
What’s the best way to integrate squirting into intercourse?
Most women who squirt report doing it through stimulation with either fingers or toys. Because of the type of stimulation needed to induce squirting is typically more about putting hard rhythmic pressure on the G-spot than about in-and-out friction, squirting during intercourse is more rare. However, it’s still possible for some women, usually when there’s some curvature to the penis and the couple is having sex in a position that allows the penis to hit the g-spot (which position would be best for this will depend on which way the particular penis is curved). Because this is rarer however, I’d highly recommend not to get obsessed with achieving this, especially in the beginning, when you are just beginning to learn what and how your body needs in order to squirt.
However, there are many ways to incorporate squirting in a play session that also includes intercourse. You or your partner can use hands or toys to lead to squirting before, after, or in-between penile-vaginal penetration.
How can you best explain to a new partner what squirting is?
You can show them this article! 🙂
Ultimately, though, please don’t get too fixated on being able to squirt or make your partner squirt. It’s not the end-all-be-all of sex or orgasms. It is NOT necessarily the best orgasm ever, or superior to other orgasms. Many times, it’s not even an orgasm, it’s just a physical expulsion of liquid. Some women love it, some women don’t care much about it either way, some even find it unpleasant and painful. And many many more have amazing sex lives and orgasms without ever squirting. You’re not broken if you can’t squirt, and you’re not weird if you can but you’re not a fan. There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to sex!
Also, please don’t get too fixated on what exactly the squirt is made of. Just put down a towel or a wee-wee pad and go at it.