THE FAIRY TALE IS REAL
By Dina Divine
Coming back from my fifth Burning Man festival this year, I feel whole and complete. This year was a special burn as my dream of finding true love and having a fairy tale wedding came to reality. When I was a little girl I used to read fairy tales in which you meet a Prince Charming who fights the dragon, and he is everything you ever wanted. Then you grow up and you realize that Prince Charming is not as easy to find as you thought. So as any fairy tale heroine, I couldn’t fully rely on magic unless I had the wit, heart, and courage to use it. The heroine has to go through many trials and tribulations of growth and self-actualization to be ready to create and manifest the fairy tale that she believes in.
Since my first Burning Man in 2009, I have been spiritually awakened and transformed, yet I continued to chase the dream of meeting my true partner. These dreams took me all the way to Australia, South America, and other places around the world. In 2012, I came to my third Burning Man pregnant. My son Alexander is 3.5 years old today. It was in sarcastic way appropriate that the theme of the burn that year was Fertility 2.0. All these journeys involved many challenges and lessons that I had to learn in order to arrive where I am today – such as letting go of the father of my child. In the process of my own healing, I became a Shamanic healer and joined a Shamandome Camp. For over 10 years, Shamandome each year serves over 3,000 individuals at Burning Man who are looking for healing and transformation. We help heal people by putting them in touch with the spirits that are already with them. We show them how to “live in ceremony” through the direct experience of various modalities, rituals, workshops that facilitate a reawakening of the indigenous mind. For last three Burning Man festivals, I have been facilitating the Dance of Liberation workshop at Shamandome that I also teach in New York – a form of movement therapy that heals and frees physical, mental, emotional and spiritual blockages through dance, music, blindfold, breath work, and shamanic principles.
Last year, I came back to the playa after a break of few years due to Alexander’s birth. I was riding solo in my own quest of magic. Through Dance of Liberation and individual random connections, I was in service, helping others to connect to their hearts. I wasn’t attached to any outcomes but after doing my own inner work and service for others, I was ready for more.
After the festival I had a day of rest in Reno, so I went to a decompression pool party by the hotel. In a middle of a conversation with someone, I suddenly felt an intense energy that was very familiar coming at me. I didn’t even see the person but smelled a distinct smell of Palo Santo (a wooden stick used by many shamans in clearing spaces and energies). I was drawn to the energy and the smell. Within the first few minutes, my soul got excited when I approached him. We easily started conversing like we knew each other forever, and through the conversation we figured out that were were to fly on the same flight back to New York the next day. If I had any doubt about fate, at that moment, I knew there was more to this than I could possibly understand. After all these years of searching, I met my twin flame – Daniel.
Twin Flames originate from the same soul that was created by Father/Mother God from the great field of unconditional love and being. They are the ultimate reunion of souls, represented by the energies of divine feminine and divine masculine principles, Alpha and Omega, Yin and Yang, opposite poles of the one reality. At the initial descent into third dimensional reality these two aspects of the one were divided and the twin flames were created. One, the Alpha flame, the other, the Omega flame. The twin flames chose to incarnate together to achieve higher purpose. They usually lead separate lives, but deep within with the knowing that their other half exists. The reunion of the flames most of the time truly happens when they both actualize, as their purpose is to raise human consciousness. At this important time in history of the earth, the portals are opening up and new energies of ascension are coming through to upgrade us, as we are shifting from 3D to 5D reality. Just like Daniel and I, more and more twin flame couples who are ready to meet are meeting now.
Every year, the founder of Shamandome Camp, Dr. Barnaby Ruhe (Early Man) and his partner and assistant Urszula Abolik marry couples at Burning Man. With Barnaby’s guidance, I have helped officiate one couple and supported them at the ceremonies.
After almost a year living together at Jersey City and raising our three children (Daniel has a 13 year old boy and 9 year old girl), we wanted to come back to the playa to have a shamanic ceremony with the Shamandome Camp and our friends.
A Shaman Wedding is very different from the traditional wedding. It is not about tying but untying the knot. The shaman is trying to look at the reality down the throat rather than performing social function, thus social words are inappropriate in the ritual. Dr. Barnaby Ruhe explains:
“I am not performing the wedding, I am just assisting. Two desperate human beings to arrive in proximity to each other for a moment on earth…Some Gods were conspiring to bring them together. What brought them together to sit at airplane together is a divine luck. Being present to themselves. Being on their mountain. Being available to a life moment. And sufficiently amused and awake. The key is to be able to recreate the magical moment – “our eyes met across the crowded room” every time they see each other. The only rule in Shamanism is to pay attention to be always PRESENT.”
The Wedding Day
Few months before Burning Man, Daniel and I have decided that we will get married on a Friday sunset, the Holy Shabbath, September 2nd, and invited our friends who we knew will be at Burning Man this year. What we didn’t know is where it will be or how we will get there, but we trusted that we will figure out the details when we get to the playa. One beautiful sunrise morning, we were biking around the playa and came upon a beautiful art piece called The Tower of Ascension built by talented artist Swig Miller. The tower looked like kundalini rising with chakras and merkaba on top, with two snake heads coming together. 20 people can climb the tower at one time.
We fell in love with the structure right away as it strongly resonated with who we are. That same morning, we visited the Temple and saw a beautiful red dragon parked next by. Both Daniel and I are enchanted with dragons so we were very curious who owned such beautiful art car. The owners came out of the Temple and we quickly befriended Carl “Charlie” and Gale Holthausen, true burners and beautiful couple married for 34 years. Charlie (aka Captain Carburetor) is a mechanical genius who created the Phoenix Dragon of Fire that spits fire and can have 10 people ride on board. Charlie and Gale were so kind and gracious to pick us up on their magical dragon from our camp and bring us to the Tower of Ascension and back.
Friday morning, the Shamandome camp performed a cleansing ritual for Daniel and I. Barnaby, and other shaman elders of the camp: Kats, Katrin, Urzsula, Jay put us on the the ground, face down, to face Mother Earth. They walked around in circles chanting, rattling and drumming, calling all the ancestors and our children to cleanse any karmic ties or anything that needs to go. They brought us to empty moment in the void and then woke us up in present moment from ashes. As I opened my eyes, sitting in front of Daniel, tears of joy were pouring out of my eyes. My body was going through kundalini waves. I felt connected to all universes, and yet grateful to be present to be here and now. This quote by Joshua David Stone was strongly resonating:
“Our universe carries within its matrix the fact that it is a universe of courage, so everything in this universe therefore exists under the theme of courage.”
The rest of the day was of course beyond special and magical. We got dressed in our fun outfits that we created with help of our amazing friends. My head crown was created by Carla San Juan (Design to Radiate) and my dress was fitted with lights by the talented Jennifer Taves (Costumegasm), who was selling her amazing costumes at the Burning Man Bazaar at Gerlach. I felt like a true desert princess bride.
While Jennifer was committed to running her business at Gerlach, her sense of intergrity touched us deeply as she showed up early afternoon to assist with wedding preparations and makeup. Then, fun pictures were taken at our Major’s trailer and by our camp.
The Phoenix Dragon of Fire picked us up right at 6 pm and with few friends on board and others biking behind us we set off to the Tower of Ascension. Everyone was howling and chanting as we were waving to the burners below.
The sun started slowly setting down, the winds picked up, and I had to pinch myself to ensure that all the beauty surrounding us was indeed real.
At the Tower of Ascension, we had more friends waiting for us.
With some prayer to the Mother Nature, the winds started calming down and friends gathered in a circle around us. Barnaby and Urszula put a red string around us and the circle of guests. In Shamanism, the red string symbolizes protection and creation of sacred space.
A friend from Shamandome, Naomi Ruth Boone, was smudging with sage to ensure the energies were cleared of any unwelcoming spirits.
Barnaby drummed and asked whether Daniel and I were on our mountains. “The Mountain” in Shamanism refers to a high vibrational place of courage. The idea is that you don’t drop from your mountain to the swamps below, which is a place of fear, and especially don’t go to the swamps of the other person, even if you are married to them. You can invite the other to your mountain but there are no obligations as in the traditional wedding. Each morning, the couple wakes up and rewrites the contract to be together while standing on their mountains.
This is a journey of freshness and work to keep the relationship always alive. We are not locked in but growing and evolving. Then we said our long list of vows.
Here are few of our vows that speak to what our Twin Flames union is all about:
- In recognition of our relationship as connection to all Being, I will continually recognize the oneness of the infinite, the true source of love, consciousness and creativity.
- I vow to honor the spirituality, beliefs, practices and truths in all paths and religions. I will continue to seek guidance and teachings from Elders and Wisdom Keepers, always building on our own daily spiritual practices, integrating and sharing what resonates with us and is in alignment with our divine connection to the one true Source.
- I vow to use our abilities, our knowledge, our gifts, our voices, and our hands to empower others to their own greatness. I dedicate this relationship and our love to the development and actualization of all humans and all of life. I offer our love as a crucible for the future of evolution.
After the vows, Daniel and I proclaimed the Twin Flame invocation, calling in all twin flames to actualize and meet at this time on earth. Then with all the guests, we proceeded to proclaim the Great Invocation that calls the Light to descent on earth: “Let Light and Love and Power restore the Plan on Earth!”
As our ceremony completed, all our friends surrounded us in one big hug and everyone chanted OM. Then, the champagne bottles popped and everyone was happy to enjoy the majestic sunset of the playa.
I have also made a special flower bouquet with aphrodisiac lollipops, Pandora Pops, made by dear friend Jena Chambers.
I threw the bouquet into the crowd of friends and two lovely beings who never met before ended up cutely fighting for its ownership.
It got dark and we took our final photos with the magical Phoenix Dragon of Fire.
The minute we were done taking photos and got back on the dragon, a strong white-out storm picked up. It was surreal. We had to surrender to the elements and be grateful to Gods for allowing us to have such beautiful ceremony. I was holding on to Daniel as I didn’t even have anything warm to wear. Since we couldn’t see anything ahead, Captain Carburetor couldn’t move forward with the dragon. Few friends had to lead us on the bikes back to the Esplanade and to our camp. After a long journey back to the camp, we were so happy to be back where a huge paella made with lots of love by our Shamandome camp mates was ready to welcome us and our guests.
Every wedding must also have a cake. So few days before the wedding, with help and lead of few amazing friends, Lizzy Playa and Nina Kassa, two raw cake were made that were shared with the guests. Our beautiful day ended on a sweet note meeting another gorgeous sunrise at Robot Heart dancing to DJ Lee Burridge.
Love Ripple – Our Mission
Our wedding was a ritual to support our mission to create love ripples and invoke other twin flames to find courage to come together. We aim collectively to activate the heart of humanity to promote peace, harmony, and a shift in global consciousness. LoveRipple.org is our website that provides a free e-book: Awakening the Courage Within, list of our services, and soon online courses. We have developed a framework that we have been teaching at Burning Man this year and other festivals, such as Gratitude Migration, and community gatherings on the East Coast. Daniel and I are in service here, in this lifetime, to assist the collective journey HOME! <3
Dina Divine (Turetsky) is a Multicultural Artist, Dance of Liberation Facilitator, Shamanic Healer, Freelance Photographer, and a Conscious New Mom. She and her partner Daniel are Founders of LoveRipple.org. She is also the Founder and Chief Editor of Online Magazine for Awakening & Healing: BeLightLiving.com. You can also check out her photography at dinadivine.com. For Dance of Liberation classes in NYC, check out Danceofliberation.com